1. Accept his feelings (Say something like, “This is so hard for you.”) You might offer him a pillow or something soft to hit.
2. Tell him you will stay with him (“I’ll be right here if you need me.”)
3. Continue to talk softly (“You’re going to feel better. I know this is hard for you. I’m right here.”)
4. Breath consciously, deeply out loud, encouraging him to breathe along with you.
5. When he calms down offer a hug. Do not punish him for ‘loosing it.’ You might say, “Whew, does that feel better?”
6. Encourage him to shift his focus to something he might want to do. “ Would you like to cuddle and read a book?”
My Best Parenting Advice: 6 Steps to Effectively Handling a Tantrum by Sandi Schwartz