My Best Parenting Advice: The Goodness of People by Kevin Hull

I’m a counselor. Eight to nine hours of my day is spent encouraging, comforting, and guiding. I join people as they invite me to the corridors and rooms of the emotions, the mind, and the soul. I hear awful things, I see immense struggles, and I witness powerful examples of the strength of humans and hear tales of great woe. I see human life at its most vulnerable. The rawness of human existence and the struggle for love, acceptance, and significance plays out before me every day. I get to see what goes on ‘behind the curtain;’ how hard people work to put on a good face and present a false self to the world that looks capable, confident, and secure, but the truth is that they are scared, floundering, and desperately insecure. I give them anchors. I give them tools. First, the tools that are needed to accept the truth about themselves, and then a foundation on which to build a core of beliefs that no life circumstance can shake or topple.

 

My work shows me just how amazing people are. The strength of single mothers, those facing immense grief and pain from deep loss, and those whose dreams lie shattered and who must be brave enough to build another life from the ashes. Children and adolescents who, on top of the normal struggles of development in today’s crazy world, must overcome developmental disorder challenges and deal with the emotional baggage from loss, divorce, and abandonment. They are my Hercules, each an individual David facing a Goliath that is too immense for words. I am humbled that people trust me and this spurns me onward to learn more, to study more, and to live what I teach regardless of how I feel. My work reminds me that we all want love, we all want to feel significant, and we all want to know that things are going to be okay.

 

Take a new look today at the people in your life. See their struggle, see their strength. See the beauty and rawness of their humanity. Shift your perspective from all about you to all about them. Perhaps your new look will show you where you need to change, perhaps you will see people that you need to move away from, and people you need to move closer towards. Don’t lose sight of the fact that we are all in a great struggle and be humbled by the fact that you have the power to touch a life simply by being present.

My Best Parenting Advice: The Goodness of People by Kevin Hull